There are a lot of things in the world of the metaphysical that people think are great mysteries or secrets, but really it's all accessible to you! Yes, you!
I say let me tell you a secret, but the reality is this isn't a secret at all. It's the real talk on spirituality. Everyone is intuitive! We all have the capacity to tap into our intuition. The trick is learning how to get quiet enough to hear, to have tools that assist you in leaning into it. That's why I had a conversation around this on episode #2 of my podcast - Directions from a Spiritual Tour Guide.
Slip on over while I spill the tea on how everyone is intuitive!
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Directions from a Spiritual Tour Guide Podcast!
This has been on my bucket list for a very, very long time and I finally did it! In my head it would be hard and a mic would be expensive. I asked around what to get and when I looked, I was pleasantly surprised how affordable a mic was. I am sure it must be a good one as my teen came down to my office the other day and freaked when he saw it. He was funny. Gushing over how cool it was - yes, for a glimmer of a second I hit cool mom status!
Beltane, an eclipse gate and new moon was a good sign to take the leap. I fought with technology a bit, but I did it! Thank goodness for a heaping dose of determination. Please take a listen to the FIRST episode - Nice to meet you!
My soul flounders in the feelings of grief this week. The passing of someone who I never met, yet has touched my life. Her story is one that has broken my heart a million times over.
I see the pain in the faces of those who loved her, but could not save her. I have listened to their stories over many years. I hear their desperation and frustration for a lost soul only trying to find her way in a world where nothing truly eases her pain.
The feelings I have are uncomfortable and unfamiliar pulling hard on my heart strings, tears echoing in my soul. I hear her crying when I close my eyes and think of her. Over and over her pain rumbles through me. Regret. Yet there is nothing I can do for her or her loved ones as the grief is raw.
Her spirit will live on in the beauty of her children who carry her features, mannerisms and memories. The happy moments will be shared with loved ones when they gather to remember her. And she will finally find peace as her tears turn to waves of love. You were lost here, but never up there. May your wings carry you high above the ones you left behind to watch over them.
Sometimes...It is nice to know you are not the only one.
Over and over again I am comforted by the words ~ "me too". Knowing someone has been there and done it too, always puts me a bit at ease. That is why I often feel compelled to share. Although to the majority that know me, I come across as a general happy, positive upbeat chick, that is not always the case. Many people would have no idea I suffer from overload on a regular occasion.
Please know I do not share this information for pity or for words of support. Instead I share because you need to know you are not the only one. Sometimes, I struggle to get out of bed in the morning. Waking with exhaustion and the overwhelming sense of anxiety about what the day holds. Sometimes I want to spend the day curled up on the couch crying. And sometimes I just want to run away, change my name and join the circus. Yes, I have these kinds of days too!
So here is the part where I share my secrets. I have worked hard over the past three and a half years to not let these days overtake my life. I have learned that even when I wake up this way, first and foremost I get up. I am gentle with myself and choose to put a smile on my face, even if I don't want to smile. Slowly the forced smile becomes a happy smile, as I find tiny things throughout my day to be grateful for. These things are there if you just go looking for them.
Now I make the choice to make the most out of each and every day. On rough days I make time to do things that will lift my spirit and vibration. I am always gentle and kind with myself, because let's be honest - negative self talk is a slippery slope. I take care of me, making self care a priority - eating healthy, avoiding too much caffeine and sugar, getting to yoga daily and of course making sure I have kid free time (uber important for all us single parents out there).
We are all fighting a battle of some sort. Some wear it on their sleeve and others hide it quietly where no one can see. Just because someone is wearing a smile, doesn't mean they aren't having a bad day too. So all in all, know that you are not alone. Reach out. Ask for help. Share. I guarantee someone else shares your pain.
Sending you all giant angel hugs! xo
I have to start by saying I can't take credit for this analogy. I was out for lunch with my friend Devon last week and she used it. I thought it was perfect and wanted to share.
Women get pregnant everyday knowing that they will endure some of the greatest pain they will feel in their lifetime to give birth to their baby. Even knowing this and experiencing it, we do it again and again. Personally, I did it 3 times and it was absolutely worth every contraction!
With labour and delivery, a mother knows that experiencing great pain will allow her to hold her sweet baby in the end. The outcome far out weighs the process hence babies continue to be brought into this world. So what if we looked at spiritual growth that way too.
Although it is hard to really know the outcome, could we all just trust that it is going to be great? Could we envision that the pain felt during the falling apart phase of spiritual growth will birth something so much greater than the process it took to get there?
I can speak from experience that my greatest spiritual growth has happened after enduring emotional pain. Feelings so deep from inside have surfaced to teach me lessons. Show me the truth. Guide me to a better path. It is during these moments that I often recite the serenity prayer to get me through, as well as remembering one of my favourite quotes ... Although it seems as if everything is falling apart, it is really just falling back together.
So next time you are moving through a tough spiritual test remember it's like labour and delivery ... birthing amazing new beginnings.
Words I take solace in, as do many others.
Sometimes it's nice to know you are not the only one feeling a certain way, or that someone else's kid does that too, or you are not the only one has done something stupid. There is a sense of community in that knowing. A gathering of souls who share the same human experience because ultimately we are divine creatures having a human experience - things are bound to turn upside down every once and awhile.
Over the past few weeks this phrase has sprung from my lips over and over. Cosmically the energy has been on a bit of a hurricane. Disrupting our old patterns and thoughts with it's wind and rain. Churning up thoughts and feelings of the past and desires for the future, of the heart. Challenging our entire being.
Yes ... you are not alone, if this is what you have been feeling. With the choice to walk the path of light brings with it the tests to help us understand why we have chosen this path, the tests to keep us on this path and the tests to show us the truth in our hearts and souls. Be grateful for these tests that bring us clarity. Give gratitude for the lessons learned and the movement forward that eventually comes with its gift.
With the end of this turbulent few weeks, we have begun to find clarity. We have also found ourselves mourning the loss of a legend, Maya Angelou. Her words run so deep within me. Her presence is so incredibly soulful. Each thought, words and poem comes from a place deep within her where love stirs, where passion grows. Her words are immortal. May they continue to guide us ... "When you know better, you do better." is one of my favs. This is another...
I had a blog post written for today, but after seeing the reading for this week I decided to save it. I wanted to remind you about magic instead. I love magic...
Life is filled with magic. It is whether we choose to see it or not that allows us to believe in it. For many, magic refers to slight of hand tricks, cutting a beautiful assistant in half and a disappearing act by a magician. But for many others this thing called magic is found in every moment of our lives.
I am one of these. I see the magic surrounding me and it fills my life with joy, mystery and laughter. For magic is found in even the simplest things, if we choose to see it. I can see the magic in my children's eyes. I can feel the magic of nature. I hear the magic in my favourite songs. It moves through me as I do my yoga practice or dance. It is everywhere.
Magic is found in the dimes or feathers from heaven - a reminder of our loved ones passed watching over us. It is in the messages from spirit in the form of songs, numbers, pictures or conversations that tell us we are on the right track. It is in the synchronicities that appear. It is in those moments I use to call crazy and now just call divine!
Magic doesn't have to be grand. Remember that as you move through your day today. See the tiny glimmers of magic all around you. Embrace them. Allow them to bring you joy.
For some see a weed, for others it's a wish or a wand! May your lives be overflowing with magic always!
We accept the love we think we deserve...
This was a profound and changing message for me. It was not something I had ever considered before, but they are words I consider often since.
Have you ever truly thought about this concept? Have you looked at the relationships you have been in - romantic, friendships, family, and looked at how you were treated by others, but most importantly by yourself. For it is the relationship with self that dictates how others treat us.
Crazy right? There was a time when I would have argued that, but now it is clearly. As I look back on my own life I am able to see where it happened. I did not consider myself worthy of the love of man and was treated thusly in my romantic relationships.
Time and again I lost who I was to please another. Gave up my identity in order for them to keep theirs. Sacrificed my own happiness in desperate need to keep my partner happy. All this really did was diminish how I treated myself and showed the men I was with that it was OK for them to treat me this way too. This did not make for happy or healthy relationships.
It is funny this message came so late in life and after the end of my marriage. But everything comes with divine timing. It is this message that reminds me to love myself, to honour who I am and to treat myself with love and care. It also reminds me to accept great love from another as I deserve it. So do YOU!
PS - need some help with love? Try carrying a piece of rose quartz close to your heart.
Momcation - a vacation from being a mom (every mom needs one every once and a while)
I love my children from the bottom of my heart. They are my everything. They make my life and my heart full of love. But as a single mom, I also know how important it is to take a break.
This was not an easy lesson. When I was married I ate, slept and breathed being a wife and mother - as I look back, maybe not so healthy. I was constantly tired, always on the go and never really feeling like I was getting ahead. The only self care I did was crawling into bed when I was sick or injured, but even this was minimal. Everyone else came first. I came last. End of story.
As a single mom I quickly realized I could no longer function this way. There was no one around to pick up the slack when I hit the preverbal wall. Therefore self care became crucial. It was not a choice to learn the lesson, it was a necessity.
It really wasn't that hard to figure out once I put my heart into it. I started small. I made the pledge that bed time was sacred. Kids were put to bed on time and that is where they stayed till morning. Sleep is important and so is me time.
After they go to bed at night I spend a short time cleaning up from the evening, but then I take time doing something I enjoy - taking a hot bath, reading a book, yoga, meditation or just go to sleep. As time went on, I let go of my mommy guilt and even get a sitter sometimes to go to a yoga class, do a workshop or go out with friends.
Most recently I took a momcation. My kids went to their Dad's and I went away to the Yoga Conference for 4 days. I slept in a hotel bed, ate delicious take out, did what I wanted and was not called Mom for 4 whole days. It was a divine break for the soul that ultimately makes me a better mom.
Taking the time to take care of your mind, body and soul is important to EVERYONE! It doesn't matter if you are a mom or a dad, husband or wife, single or not, young or old. Everyone needs to honour their body and soul with self care. So take a momcation or a vacation to rejuvenate yourself!
We all have those days when we want to scream "Stick IT!" to the world. Those days when we want to crawl back into bed and pull the covers over our head. Those days we just want to disappear.
It is on these days that it is most important to do something. Even if it is the tiniest thing to break your mood. One little thing leads to the next little thing, that leads to a bigger thing and in no time you can be feeling better.
Raising your vibration and your mood is simple. Spirituality is simple (well that's a whole other blog post). Start with something easy like getting out of bed, petting the cat or dog or making a cup of tea. Then take another step ... have a shower, call a friend (one that will lift you up, not let you wallow) or just poke your head outside for a few minutes.
Gratitude is a great way to raise your vibration and my favourite go to. Give thanks for the day, for your bed that held you while you slept, for the cup of coffee that got you going this morning or the for the soul sister that always knows exactly what to say.
It never ceases to amaze me how saying thank you makes me feel lighter. It is an instant pick me up, that didn't cost anything nor has any side effects like eating, caffeine, alcohol or drugs do. It's about getting high on life! So next time you are having one of those days, instead of saying stick it try saying thank you for the lesson and move on to bigger and brighter things!