"We accept the love we thing we deserve." Stephen Chbosky
This was a profound and changing message for me. It was not something I had ever considered before, but they are words I consider often since.
Have you ever truly thought about this concept? Have you looked at the relationships you have been in - romantic, friendships, family, and looked at how you were treated by others, but most importantly by yourself. For it is the relationship with self that dictates how others treat us.
Crazy right? There was a time when I would have argued that, but now it is clearly. As I look back on my own life I am able to see where it happened. I did not consider myself worthy of the love of man and was treated thusly in my romantic relationships.
Time and again I lost who I was to please another. Gave up my identity in order for them to keep theirs. Sacrificed my own happiness in desperate need to keep my partner happy. All this really did was diminish how I treated myself and showed the men I was with that it was OK for them to treat me this way too. This did not make for happy or healthy relationships.
It is funny this message came so late in life and after the end of my marriage. But everything comes with divine timing. It is this message that reminds me to love myself, to honour who I am and to treat myself with love and care. It also reminds me to accept great love from another as I deserve it. So do YOU!
PS - need some help with love? Try carrying a piece of rose quartz close to your heart.
This was a profound and changing message for me. It was not something I had ever considered before, but they are words I consider often since.
Have you ever truly thought about this concept? Have you looked at the relationships you have been in - romantic, friendships, family, and looked at how you were treated by others, but most importantly by yourself. For it is the relationship with self that dictates how others treat us.
Crazy right? There was a time when I would have argued that, but now it is clearly. As I look back on my own life I am able to see where it happened. I did not consider myself worthy of the love of man and was treated thusly in my romantic relationships.
Time and again I lost who I was to please another. Gave up my identity in order for them to keep theirs. Sacrificed my own happiness in desperate need to keep my partner happy. All this really did was diminish how I treated myself and showed the men I was with that it was OK for them to treat me this way too. This did not make for happy or healthy relationships.
It is funny this message came so late in life and after the end of my marriage. But everything comes with divine timing. It is this message that reminds me to love myself, to honour who I am and to treat myself with love and care. It also reminds me to accept great love from another as I deserve it. So do YOU!
PS - need some help with love? Try carrying a piece of rose quartz close to your heart.
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